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#145: When Your Inner Critic Runs the Meeting

July 13, 2025 • Becca Silver • Season 3 • Episode 145

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Coaches and leaders—what if the biggest resistance to change isn’t from your team… but from you? Your inner critic!

In this episode, I’m joined by Amanda Younts of Midlife Catalyst to unpack the internal resistance we rarely name but constantly feel. We’re talking about the shoulds, the shame, the inner critic, and the hidden expectations we carry that sabotage our best intentions—especially when we're leading others.

You’ll hear:

Why self-judgment masquerades as “high standards”
How internal resistance can quietly destroy our momentum
A new way to shift from should to support (yes, we’re flipping the script)
And unconventional, accessible ways to build self-awareness without writing a single paragraph in a journal

If you’ve ever told yourself “I should know better” or “I should be further along by now,” this episode will hit home in the best kind of way.

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